Not too exciting here

There has not been any updates. I do not have any new dates for court or depositions yet. Hopefully soon. I probably will not hear back from my atty until after the first of the year. With all the holidays and him being on vacation and honymooning from his recent marriage (Congrats Mr Atty!), he is not in right now.

As far as the new "friend", we hit a stone wall. He wanted to spend every available minute either at my house or on the phone together. That drives me nuts. I was feeling smothered. When I tried to tell him about it, he kind of blew me off saying that he did not want any more than I did and he would wait for me. I told him I could not give him the time and "energy" that a relationship with him would require and he just kept telling me he did not want anything, and did not expect anything. I told him that his behaviors and words told me he did want more and I could not give more. He then told me he would give me a while and some space to decide, but he would not just be friends. That to me sounded like an ultimatum and so I said that was fine and he left. I thought that was the end of it until the next day. I got a text message from him wanting to know where I was. As if he was sitting at my house and I was not there, so where was I? That bothered me. I did not ask him to come over and I had plans and was not going to be home. He did not ask, just assumed he could come over. When I told him where I was (what town) he wanted to know if I was still there from the night before when I was supposed to go to that town. I did not make it the night before because the plans fell through, but what business is it of his was how I felt. That pretty much told me that I did not/should not be in any kind of relationship with him. Well, I actually already knew that, it was just sort of the clincher. Then in the past two weeks, I keep getting text messages from him about how much he misses me. How do you miss someone you have only known for three weeks. I also got one from him on Christmas Eve morning at 5:30 in the morning! Talk about a rude awakening.

I did decide through all of this annoyance at him, though, that I was still interested in dating. I have met a couple of different guys, and have been introduced to others. I have been on one date, and I had a blast. It was really nice to go out with someone for a change. Obviously I have no idea where any of this will lead, and most likely it will be to nowhere, but I will have fun getting there. And if I get a nice dinner or two out of the deal, all the better.

On another personal note, I have been working on the weight loss goal I set for the year. You know, now that the year is almost over. I have started walking with my sister for two mornings a week. I would like more, but that is all she can commit to right now. I also have walked/jogged a few times on my own. I have been following my diet. I am down about 4 inches this past month. I was visiting my best friend and she was purging her closet. I love it when I am there when she does that. I came home with an armful of new clothes, some of them from her SIL with the tags still on, like JCrew and LizClaiborne. I started trying them on and they all fit. Then I thought while I was at it, I should try on my own clothes that did not fit anymore. Happy Day! I can get them on. Not all of them yet, the smallest ones don't fit yet, but I am well on my way! Happy Day Oh Happy Day! I even burned the food I was cooking for our family holiday dinner I was so excited and spent so much time in the bedroom trying on clothes. I totally forgot about it. I didn't ruin it thank goodness, it was just a little crunchy and dark on the top. We just picked that part off! *laughing at myself again*

So far that is all that is going on in my life. Nothing new to report on the deals and steals front. I still haven't really been shopping. Just for things like milk and eggs. I don't have any new reports on the custody front yet, although I hope really soon for that. And on the personal front, just the weight loss is going great. And the dinner. Hopefully more of those come my way....

Finally, A Court Date

Finally. Well, last Tuesday I had the first hearing. It was a joke of a court room. It was held in a civil court setting where all the cases are just argued out there in front of the whole room. People were in and out of the courtroom the whole time. The door was loud and it was distracting every time it slammed shut. My case was called as the second hearing. Unfortunately my ex and his atty were not there yet so we had to wait until the last case was heard. While we waited our turn, we actually heard a case where one man was sueing another for money just in case the leasing company sued him after an accident that happened over six years ago. What is wrong with the people in that particular area? It totally blew my mind all the cases I heard that morning. Finally it was our turn. We were there to argue whether to be allowed to have a hearing and if my son could keep the atty that had already been appointed. First, my ex's atty gets up and talks about how unusual this case was and it was his first time fighting a case like this, the first time as far as he knew for the county. Then says that the case should be summarily dismissed because I am crazy. They all said so. *insert me rolling my eyes* Then my atty gets up and states that is not true and the entire case is disputed facts therefore the case could not be summarily dismissed. SURPRISE: the judge agreed with my atty! That is a first!!!! That means we progress to depositions, discovery and a custody hearing.

Next up was the issue with the GAL (Guardian Ad Litem) that was already appointed for my son. The ex's atty actually said that he did not know if any of the allegations made by me were true or not but that did not matter. What mattered was that I was ordered to carry health insurance, but since I stated that I could not afford it, I could obviously not afford to pay the GAL and therefore the cost would fall to his client. No GAL should be appointed and set aside the order. My atty got up and stated that no court costs that have been remanded to me have been unpaid. I have fulfilled my court cost obligation every time and there was no indication that I would not pay these costs. Then my ex's atty gets up and says there is a new State Supreme Court ruling that says that only in extraordinary cases can the child have a GAL. The judge asked him what was his definition of extraordinary. Yes, the judge asked my ex's atty to provide the definition of an extraordinary for the court. WTF?!?!?!? The ex's atty said he did not know. So the judge said that he would set aside the GAL order. Actually he said that so many orders were filed with the courts to be filed that there was no way for the judges to always know what they were signing and they always got one side or the other mad for signing orders. I simply cannot believe what transpires in the courts down there. It is insane.

So, while we lost the GAL for S we do still get to go to court. We will just have to find another way around the issue. Next up is trying to get dates set for the depositions and such. I don't have a date for them yet. Hopefully soon.

On a personal note, I met someone. I have been on a couple of dates with him and so far we are getting along great. My dad introduced us one night a few months ago. He is a bit older than me. Well a lot actually. He is about 20 years older than me. So far no one in my family has been bothered by it. I thought they might be, but they don't seem to care. Pretty much all they have said so far is they don't care about his age or skin color, just how he treats me. So far, only with respect. He better or he'll be on the curb with the rest of them. I won't go into any details yet, mostly because other than sitting and talking to get to know each other there are not any details.

I also wanted to put in a mention for all those that want to whiten their teeth, I found a product that actually worked. For me at least. (I get nothing for mentioning this-they don't even know I exist.) Aquafresh White Trays are what I used. They were fabulous. I have sensitive teeth and other whitening products hurt my teeth or caused even more sensitivity. These White Trays were really easy to use, they did not make my teeth hurt and you only use them for seven days. I can totally live with that. My mom said that she can really tell a big difference in the color of my teeth. YEAH! Money well spent.

That pretty much brings you all up to speed with everything. I will let you know when I get some more dates for the custody issues. Hope this finds you all well.